verb (used with or without object), ca·joled, ca·jol·ing.
- to persuade by flattery or promises; wheedle; coax.
- to persuade (someone) by flattery or pleasing talk to do what one wants; wheedle; coax
1640s, from French cajoler “to cajole, wheedle, coax,” perhaps a blend of Middle French cageoler “to chatter like a jay” (16c., from gajole, southern diminutive of geai “jay;” see jay (n.)), and Old French gaioler “to cage, entice into a cage” (see jail (n.)). Related: Cajoled; cajoling.